“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.
The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” — 1 John 4:18
Since this is Valentine’s week, it feels fitting to take a moment to reflect on love—but not just the kind celebrated with flowers and chocolates. The Bible speaks of love in a much deeper, richer way. In fact, the Greek language, which much of the New Testament was written in, has multiple words for love—each capturing different shades of meaning. English, by comparison, can feel limiting. But as students of God’s Word, we have the privilege of diving deeper into His definition of love, and how it stands in stark contrast to fear.
Every time I read 1 John 4:18, I feel a gentle challenge. Do I truly live in the fullness of God’s love? Or do I let fear creep in? If I’m honest, fear finds its way into my thoughts far too often—fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown. But Scripture reminds us that God’s perfect love—His agape love—casts out fear.
The Greek word for love in this verse is agape (ἀγάπη)—a selfless, sacrificial love that flows directly from God’s heart. This is not a love based on emotions or conditions. It’s unwavering, unshakable, and deeply committed. And because God is love (1 John 4:16), wherever He is, fear has no place—just like light drives out darkness.
Now, let’s talk about fear. The Greek word used here for fear (φόβος, phobos) can refer to either a reverent fear of God or a crippling fear of circumstances—the kind that makes us shrink back, avoid difficult conversations, and live in anxiety. It’s clear that 1 John 4:18 is addressing the second kind—fear that distorts our relationships, paralyzes our faith, and keeps us from walking in the freedom Christ offers.
But here’s the good news: God’s presence is greater than our fear. His perfect love is not just an idea—it’s an active force that shatters fear’s grip on our lives. When we allow God’s love to fill us, we stop living out of self-protection and start living in the boldness of His truth. That doesn’t mean we won’t face fear, but it does mean we don’t have to be ruled by it.
So, what does this have to do with Valentine’s Day?
Honestly? Not much. Because the world’s version of love and God’s love are vastly different. The love our culture promotes often falls short—conditional, fleeting, self-serving. But God’s perfect love is different. It forgives, restores, and reconciles. It enables us to love even when it’s hard, to extend grace when it’s undeserved, and to walk in peace instead of fear.
So this week, as love is celebrated in many forms, take a moment to reflect: Are you living in the fullness of God’s love? Are you allowing His love to drive out fear in your life? And are you extending that love to others—especially in places where fear and hurt have tried to take hold?
Let God’s love lead the way. When your words fall short, let His love speak through you.
You are deeply loved. Now, go and love well.
~Steve
